Am I being 51% right now? Something I ask myself regularly.
The question may seem a little strange, but this is a question that I use, to remind myself that I am ultimately accountable for all that is taking place in my life.
Much of the time we expect this perfect harmony and balance in our lives. We cling onto these fantasies and fallacies of fairness. This sense that our relationships are 50/50.
If I put in work, my employer will promote me. I’m an employee, so my boss should know what it is that motivates me. I called my friend last week, it’s his turn to call me this time. My partner isn’t loving enough. My family just doesn’t seem to understand me. Countless other examples come to mind but all of these, all of them, fantasies of a 50/50 world.
Because I’m here, I’ll be met in this space, and if ‘the other’ does not meet me, then it’s their fault, because I was here, I was ready.
I’ve been here. Many times. In fact here isn’t where I thought it was at all, here was actually just this safe space I could retreat to when I didn’t want to take ownership or be accountable. Here was this cradle of cowardice, hidden from reality while cloaked in expectation. Here was the 49%, or even less for that matter.
You see, the 51% is the hand that reaches across the table instead of waiting for the hand to be extended first. The 51% is me expressing my needs to my boss so that my boss understands how he/she can best serve me as a leader and in return I can serve. 51% isn’t anything more than a reminder that things aren’t always what we make them up to be in our heads and the 51% is ultimate just a simple question.
Am I being the 51% right now?
Am I accountable to myself. Am I retreating into safety, or will I step forward into the light and push this situation in the direction that I wish it was heading.
I never, ever, I can’t stress that enough, I never want to be in a position where my success, freedom or happiness is in the hands of someone else who doesn’t have the same vision that I do. If I set goals for myself, and those goals involve other people to reach, I AM the one who will build the plan to get there and if others aren’t putting in the time and energy I need, I AM the one who will have the courage to follow-up, to ask for next steps, to understand why, or to find new partners in my mission.
The 51% is our opportunity to make the change we desire to see in our lives happen and to put in the work to ensure the outcome we wish to achieve, is achieved. I hope none of us will miss this opportunity because beyond the 51% is ownership and accountability and it’s all the freedom we need to begin reaching our goals.
Let’s just all be the 51%.